THE ULTIMATE | MIND-SHIFT
Don’t Indulge | Don’t Deny | Create Richer Relationships!
We experience emotions in our bodies and in our minds, so we need to deal with them in a variety of ways. We can have a felt sense of them, we can analyse, we can explore, we can centre our energy.
We need to accept our emotions, not deny them or indulge them. We just need to know that they exist, and to use them to build richer relationships.
It is valuable to look for the core of our emotional response, to focus.
We need ways of safely releasing and appropriately expressing our emotions for our well-being and the well-being of our relationships.
We need to practise ways of handling difficult emotions in others:
• active listening
• giving support and reassurance
• selecting out what is valid from emotional dumping
• re-directing statements that create or inflame conflict towards positive possibilities in the situation.
Being able to manage our emotions is empowering, we are able to support ourselves and others, we are not a victim to our and others emotions and we are in control. As such we can make clear decisions; personal and professional.
- To realise the importance of acknowledging and expressing emotions.
- To learn skills for identifying and managing emotions more effectively – both ours and other people’s.
Session Times: 5 hours
- The Win/Win Approach
- Empathy (including Active Listening)
- Willingness to Resolve
Separating the interpretation from the reality, and becoming centred within ourselves will allow us to choose appropriate action. Fear warns us that we feel out of control and need to proceed with caution and perhaps get some help or gather more information.
What are some of the ways we express or deal with our emotions?
What happens if we don’t express our emotions? What prevents us from expressing our emotions?
How do ”suppressing” and ”containing” feel different? How are their consequences different?
What about differences between ”expressing” and ”exploding”, in feelings and consequences?
Because anger is such a passionate and powerful emotion, it is one that often overwhelms us. It also is one that often leads to explosion unless we learn to handle it productively.
A through-the-body approach to unravelling a problem to which there are difficult emotions
What do you feel, and what do you do when confronted with difficult emotions in others?
How productive are these reactions?
• managing own reaction (not becoming inflamed, defensive etc.)
• active listening for feelings and facts
• making “I” Statements
• focusing on the issue, not the person
• asking clarifying and reframing open-ended questions
• rewarding behaviour you want
• negotiating a solution that takes account of both your and their needs
• expressing support and reassurance